Life observations and tips on how to pass through life with awareness

– Empowered people contribute to the empowerment of those around them.
– Avoid judging things at surface level. You need to dig a few layers deeper without closing your eyes when you find treasure rooms or catacombs. On the surface, you might be trapped in a Fata Morgana.
– It’s true that high expectations often lead to disillusionment with the world; however, as long as you don’t let yourself be disillusioned with your self, high expectations can be used as fuel to build and improve your life.
– Falsity contaminates. Authenticity inspires; it’s contagious, enveloped in light, and arouses kindness. Its adepts are a dying breed, so value them.
– We all have both light and darkness within us. Some will see the angelic, others the devilish, and such judgements are partly reflections of the watcher. I wouldn’t say you should never see yourself through the eyes of another as that could inhibit empathy and diminish your humanity, or simply prevent positive things from happening- instead, be selective of the eyes you borrow, why, and when…
– …and whatever you do, never lose your own vision, lest you be swallowed by the mouth of the world and become a watered-down version of yourself.
– Sometimes you won’t know if something is right or wrong for you until you try it. If you realise it feels wrong, give up. If it feels right, carry on, regardless of external views. Not all compasses for life navigation reveal the same directions.
– Your beliefs, perspective on, or perceptions of many subjects will shift over time. This can manifest in your response to and interpretations of the world around you, which can, in turn, re-shape your world.
– Some situations and events will make a lot more sense in hindsight whilst some of your emotional responses or perceptions might make a lot less sense when you are detached and gain new perspective.
– Recognise signs of gaslighting and bid adieu.
– You should create your life, not just react to it. Relinquish fatalistic views.
– A moment of vulnerability is not necessarily weakness. It can be a cathartic release. Since it unites, strengthens, and connects people, it can be powerful. I think the reason people avoid sharing emotional or vulnerable moments when they feel them is for fear of how others will judge them- a fear which should be destroyed. Or because they’ve had malicious people in their lives who have manipulated their emotions, or they’ve seen it happening to others, friends or family. The most guarded are those who have seen or lived through a lot, the most cynical are the disappointed idealists and the least ignorant. Share such moments selectively. Have a filter for the world, leaving out the malevolent and the perfidious. Although, when you think about it, a moment of vulnerability can be a good thing anyway: it either repels those who are not in alignment with you, or makes you recognise them.
– Releasing a “negative” thought or emotion in a healthy way, whether that’s sadness, anger, or fear, makes you grow, as long as you don’t wallow in it. Acknowledge it, validate it, and move on. Unexpressed or repressed emotions manifest themselves in uglier ways, they infect you. In our narcissistic society, where people invest a lot more in maintaining an image (of success, constant bliss, and so on) rather than nurturing essences, it can be easy to fall into the trap of confining certain aspects of yourself and looking down on traits you deem as vulnerable or unpleasant (in yourself and in others).
Surround yourself with people who promote the same ideals of unity through openness and understanding, rather than people around whom you need to limit yourself or be guarded.
– However, don’t force others to open up if they’re unwilling to or not interested. Give people breathing space. Unless your thought that someone should somehow change is because their behaviour directly affects you or unless it comes from a loving place, accept them as they are. This might consequently mean staying away from each other. I genuinely think some people are not meant to be around each other. Not necessarily because any of them is inherently bad, but because they may be viscerally incompatible, maybe their personalities are not in harmony, their beliefs clash to an irrevocable degree, and it’s not fun being around each other when that happens.
– Don’t fall into toxic ego traps, and don’t be led or consumed by power dynamics.
– As you age, years start flying by in a blink. I’m young, and I already feel life slipping away so quickly. Don’t live in the past and don’t spend too much time lamenting the death of past moments or things that are out of your control.
– There will be moments when you have to ask yourself: do I want to be liked and approved or true to myself by doing exactly what I want? Do I want to fit in or stand out? Fit in however you want. Stand out whenever you want.
– There are people who will put you up on a pedestal and people who will try to throw you off your pedestal. The former case is not ideal because you will inevitably fall off when the reality of you doesn’t match the expectations. The latter is probably an envious reaction to your greatness. Regardless of which attitudes you face, look straight ahead and follow your path and ambitions.
– Don’t become complacent. If you ever feel ‘there is more to life than this’, whether you’re thinking of your job, lifestyle, or experiences, you are probably right. Explore and feel new things, pump up your dopamine and adrenaline levels. Take risks, but have a safety net.
Embrace who you are. Maybe in your adolescence and your twenties that’s a meaningless or elusive statement since you’re constantly learning new things, going through changes, growing as a person. Well, hopefully your whole life will consist of that. But embracing yourself encompasses that fluidity too, it means giving yourself a break, recognising all aspects of yourself and accepting them (if they’re not harmful or toxic). It’s okay to cultivate happy thoughts and it’s okay to be cynical sometimes. It’s okay to be funny and it’s okay to be serious. Intense and light-hearted and giggly. Sociable and reserved. Impulsive or stoical. It’s okay to explore your provocative side and it’s also okay to be timid.  To see yourself as a collection of thoughts and memories. To be made of many things, without any single aspect defining you by itself. It’s okay to be real.

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